Tele Aadsen

writer - fisherman - listener

Since launch­ing Hooked two years ago, I’ve joked that the boats I work on may insti­tute a con­fi­den­tial­i­ty clause in my crew con­tracts. Some cap­tains, upon see­ing them­selves in print, dis­cov­er they’d pre­fer to keep their busi­ness pri­vate, while oth­ers embrace life with a writer on board. For­tu­nate­ly, my cur­rent employ­ers are all about photo/video/story doc­u­men­ta­tion; they gave their bless­ing for their fam­i­ly’s Hooked appearance.


When Jeff called to ask if I could fill in for his abrupt­ly depart­ed long­line deck­hand, his only hes­i­ta­tion wasn’t about my abil­i­ty to han­dle the work, but the com­pa­ny. “I’ve got to warn you: our kids are wild and crazy. Jeytlin’s full of ener­gy, and Teyen’s in his ter­ri­ble two’s. Do you think you’ll be okay with that?”

Jeff knows my mater­nal aspi­ra­tions go no fur­ther than four-legged fam­i­ly. Chil­dren are a for­eign coun­try that I’ve nev­er had any desire to vis­it. Accept­ing this job on the Kath­leen Jo would mean not only vis­it­ing, but becom­ing a resident.

Joel, lis­ten­ing from the oth­er room, lat­er observed that I’d put my best social work­er voice on to assure our friend that I respect­ed what he and his wife, Lindy, were shoul­der­ing in run­ning a true fam­i­ly busi­ness. “Don’t apol­o­gize for your fam­i­ly, Jefe. That boat is your kids’ home. No one has a right to make them feel like a nui­sance in their own space. I’m proud of you guys for what you’re doing, and it’d be a priv­i­lege to share that time with you all.”

All the right words fell out of my mouth. I real­ly want­ed this job.

Photo by Sean Rodda.

Pho­to by Sean Rodda.

Eigh­teen days lat­er, we’ve made two safe, suc­cess­ful trips. We caught 30,000 pounds of black cod while blessed with good weath­er, charg­ing full bore through a one day turn­around to take advan­tage of the calm seas while they last­ed. There’s been much laugh­ter. I’ve made some mon­ey, seen some glo­ri­ous sun­sets, had some fan­tas­tic meals.

(How do you know you’re crew­ing on the right boat? When you’re so slathered with black cod slime and blood that it’s too much effort to get cleaned up to go inside to eat, so you choose to spend the 12-hour day on deck, and one of your employ­ers pass­es steam­ing plates of deli­cious­ness out the door.)

 

Handed a still-warm piece of pineapple upside-down cake, & told to take a break & enjoy it before cleaning the halibut? I love crewing on this boat.

Hand­ed a still-warm piece of pineap­ple upside-down cake, & told to enjoy it before clean­ing the hal­ibut?    I love work­ing on this boat.

 

Most impor­tant­ly, though, it turns out that the reas­sur­ances I’d giv­en Jeff weren’t just fast talk. My small ship­mates are fas­ci­nat­ing. Hear­ing five year old Jeytlin ask to go down into the engine room to help her dad, watch­ing two year old Teyen’s face bright­en as he points to the image inked on the inside of my left arm (“Boat!”), I won­der what makes me so unex­pect­ed­ly fond of them. Is it the con­nec­tion to their par­ents? Desire for them to grow up know­ing me as a safe adult in their lives? Or do I delight in these boat kids because I see the best parts of my own child­hood reflect­ed in them?

 

Good boat kids.

Good boat kids.

 

Storytime for Boat Kids

Read­ing Mindy Dwyer’s The Salmon Princess. After a long day on deck, this is a treat for all of us.

 

My step­mom asked if this time has awak­ened any dor­mant mater­nal urges. Nope. But it’s been a great expe­ri­ence, a priv­i­lege to be trust­ed not only with my friends’ liveli­hood, but also as a guest play­er on Team Thomas, shar­ing a very small fam­i­ly space in demand­ing cir­cum­stances. It’s giv­en me a new appre­ci­a­tion for the fam­i­lies liv­ing and work­ing togeth­er — an expe­ri­ence that many of Hooked’s read­ers have had, and one that few non-fish­er­men can imag­ine. Those of you who have held these roles — boat kid, fisherman/boat par­ent, or both — I won­der how it was for you. Look­ing back, what stands out as par­tic­u­lar joys and strug­gles? (Psst — Kar­la, Heather, Tom?  For that mat­ter: Dad? Mom?) We’ve got a cou­ple new par­ents in the fleet who are about to embark upon their first sea­son with chil­dren aboard, who’d prob­a­bly wel­come the reflec­tions of those who’ve been down this road.

Weath­er gave us a few days’ reprieve, but the K‑Jo’s head­ing back out this after­noon, switch­ing our efforts to tar­get hal­ibut. If you want to keep an eye on us, the NOAA weath­er site is here; we’ll be some­where in the olive, back in about a week. Until then, be well, buddies.